It's 2013 and It's Controversial that Women are Making Money
If you're not living under a rock, you've surely heard the news by now that more U.S. women than ever are the primary breadwinners. Great right?! You go girls!
Mothers are breadwinners for a record share of American families, as more women bring up children on their own and more married mothers outearn their husbands, an analysis of census data shows.
The new reality is a dramatic shift from decades ago, the Pew Research Center found in a study released Wednesday. Two years ago, more than 40% of American households with children relied on a mother as their biggest or only source of income — a massive jump from 11% of families in 1960.
Two things drove the change: Single mothers now make up a quarter of all U.S. households with children, the Pew analysis of U.S. Census Bureau data found. On top of that, a growing share of married mothers make more money than their husbands, as more women earn degrees and enter the workforce. Wives earn more in nearly 1 out of 4 married couples, Pew found.
Well, then this happened.
At that point I rolled my eyes out of my head and began to remember why conservatives have been on the losing side of politics for so many years now. Why is this a controversial topic? Make that paper, ladies.
I read the back and forth exchange between Katie Pavlich and Erick Erickson on Twitter and was happy to see a woman, and a fabulously conservative one at that, put him in his place.
Here's the bottom line: there's absolutely nothing wrong with women being the primary breadwinner and there's absolutely no one, especially a man, who should judge a woman for choosing to be the primary breadwinner in a relationship. They should celebrate it.
In my first few months of marriage I have thought about many of the concepts of a solid relationship and ultimately it comes down to the idea that we are a team and we are in this together. If I make a poor financial decision, it affects my husband. If my husband decides to start his own company, it affects me. If I get a job offer to move to another city, it affects him. Whoever makes the bulk of the money or manages the bills really doesn't matter, because you are a team and we are Co-Captains leading this team.
My Mom, being a breadwinner and being from a background that challenged her to challenge the status quo, raised me the same way, as did my Dad. The Hispanic culture is largely known for its machismo: women should make babies, don't need to go to college and should be at home tending to their husband's every need at every moment. But my parents saw a better life for themselves and for me and raised me to be an independent thinker who should not be ashamed of her success. My Mom also told me that the man I marry should not hold me back, be envious of my success and should empower me to follow my dreams. I found that guy, and I knew it the first day that we met. (Partly because I was his boss on a project.)
True, I'm not a mother yet, but I will be someday, God-willing and when the time is right, but I don't think I should be faulted if I choose to go out and continue to be the primary breadwinner. Nor should I be faulted if I choose to stay home and raise my kids, that in itself is a full-time job with no monetary paycheck. The point here is again--no one has the right to judge.
I think the shift in women making more money doesn't stem from the idea that "you can't trust a man" or that marriage as an institution is collapsing, I think it comes from women seeing the cold hard truth that is economics, the world we live in and this recession; beyond that its women just wanting to have it all. And Erick Erickson, you may not think that women can have it all, but dammit my Mom does and so will I.
Having your own career is a choice of fulfilling your own dreams and in a sense its also an insurance policy for you, as an independent woman, that you can take care of yourself if you need to, and if you happen to make a little more than your man, more power to you ladies. Whether you make the most money or choose to stay at home, it's your choice, so men (and women), please stop judging.
And kudos to Megyn Kelly for shutting it down (watch the featured clip).